Tuesday, November 8, 2011

2011 Civil & Human Rights Symposium

The South Asian Bar Association of Washington, D.C., the South Asian Law Students Association at Georgetown University Law Center, KhushDC, and GAYLAW present:

2011 Civil & Human Rights Symposium: Surveying the Landscape of Social and Legal Issues Affecting the South Asian LGBTQ Community in the U.S. and in South Asia.

Tuesday, November 8, 2011
7:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m.
Georgetown University Law Center
Hart Auditorium
600 New Jersey Avenue, N.W.
Washington, D.C. 20001
FREE-to-attend

The landscape of social and legal issues faced by the South Asian LGBTQ community is changing. Great strides have been made to promote and advance the interests of the LGBTQ community in the United States and in South Asia, but many challenges still remain. The panelists will provide insight and share their perspective of the social and legal issues currently faced by the South Asian LGBTQ community in the United States and South Asia, as well as on the role of the U.S. Department of State in international LGBTQ issues.

The panelists will include:

Sapna Pandya – Sapna Pandya is Co-Founder of Humsafar International, a collective of trainers on health access and cultural competence, with a particular interest in sexual health and sexual identity issues among LGBTQ communities. One of her current projects includes consulting for the Muslim Youth Project, a sexual & reproductive health empowerment and capacity building project housed at Advocates for Youth. Sapna has experience working with priority populations (queer communities, PLWHA) in India and Pakistan, but also draws from her advocacy work with South Asian queer folks in New York City and the DC area, and health education programs when she directed the South Asian Health Initiative (SAHI) in New York City. These experiences have deepened the passion that Sapna has for being involved in coordinated social justice movements (that bridge methods such as advocacy & organizing, and incorporate a leftist ideology) - a realization which motivated a move “back” to the Nation’s capital just over a year ago. Sapna is the Executive Director of Many Languages One Voice, a DC-based organization that administers the DC Language Access Coalition, and builds community power to ensure that all individuals with limited or no-English proficiency (LEP/NEP) have equitable access to public services, programs, and activities. Sapna lives with her wife in the District and speaks Spanish in addition to her native languages of Hindi/Urdu, Gujarati and Marathi.

Mira D. Patel – Mira Patel joined the Policy Planning staff for the Office of the Secretary of the U.S. Department of State in April 2009. She is responsible for international women’s issues, refugee policy, and LGBT issues. Most recently, she served as Secretary Clinton’s Senate aide for foreign affairs, defense, and finance. She previously worked for the Center for American Progress and for Lehman Brothers in New York analyzing foreign exchange in emerging markets. She holds a B.A. from Wellesley College.

Gautam Raghavan (Moderator) – Gautam Raghavan is an Associate Director of Public Engagement at the White House, where he functions as the White House liaison to the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community. Prior to joining the White House, Gautam served as the Deputy White House Liaison for the U.S. Department of Defense (“DoD”) and as the Outreach Lead for DoD’s “Don't Ask, Don't Tell” Working Group. Gautam has previously worked for the Obama campaign, Democratic National Committee, and Progressive Majority, and is a graduate of Stanford University. He lives in Washington, D.C. with his husband Andy and beagle Penny.

Jeff Schimelfenig, Esq. – Jeff Schimelfenig is currently the President-Elect of the National LGBT Bar Association and a member of GAYLAW (the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Attorneys of Washington DC). Jeff works as National Director of Legal Project Management for Kelly Services, providing consulting services to law firms and corporate general counsels on e-discovery project management, staffing alternatives and legal talent resources. Previously, Jeff was a general practice sole practitioner in Northeastern Pennsylvania focusing on small business issues. He is a graduate of the American University Washington College of Law and of the University of Scranton. He is an active member of the Pennsylvania and the District of Columbia Bars.

Vega Subramaniam – Vega Subramaniam has been involved in South Asian LGBT activism since the late 1990s. With her wife, Mala Nagarajan, she co-founded Trikone-NW in 1997, an organization for queer South Asians in the Pacific Northwest. In 2004, she and Mala were one of 8 couples to participate in a marriage equality lawsuit against King County and Washington. She also helped organize the DesiQ conference in San Francisco in 2006 and the NQAPIA national conference in Seattle in 2009. Professionally, her work has revolved around education equity for low-income, first-generation college students and students of color. She has taught sociology and worked in student services at Penn State University, Western Washington University, and the University of Washington. She currently works at ACCT, a national community college association.

This event is free and the entire DC community is encouraged to attend.  
For more information about this event or SABA-DC, please contact Habib Ilahi at president @ sabadc.org (without spaces).  KhushDC contact is Puesh Kumar at president @ khushdc.org (without spaces).

Saturday, October 29, 2011

South Asian queer family attends White House Diwali

The White House Office of Faith-based and Neighborhood Partnerships hosted the 2011 Diwali Reception.  Some of the KhushDC family was lucky enough to have this opportunity to meet with attending dignitaries such as Ambassador Nirupama Rao, White House LGBT liaison Gautam Raghavan, White House Initiative on Asian Americans and Pacific Islanders Executive Director Kiran Ahuja, Initiative Commissioner Amardeep Singh, U.S. Army Chaplain Pratima Dharm, and many more.  President Obama also spoke at the event.  A video of his comments are posted on YouTube.

In addition to those of us from KhushDC, it was great to see a number of South Asian LGBT involved in the executive and legislative branches.

From left to right: Gautam Raghavan, Chuck Johnson, JP Singh, Ashley Bell, Shamina Singh, Mira Patel, Aleyamma Mathew, Vega Subramanium, Puesh Kumar, Mala Nagarajan, and Tarak Shah

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

My Diwali

My sister and I knew it was that time of year when my dad would get the ladder out in late-October/early-November to put up the Christmas lights or, as he liked to call them, the Diwali lights.  Rather than get excited, we were always worried that our neighbors would think we were "weird" or "crazy" for putting Christmas lights up so early in the year.  When we would voice these concerns, my mom would very bluntly say, "I don't care what these Americans think, it's my Diwali and I will celebrate it!"

As a Hindu-Punjabi family, we would pray at our makeshift temple in the guest bedroom, I would light the incense, my sister would put a tikka (vermillion powder) on each of the gods and goddesses, and we would all sing the Gayatri Mantra together.  And just so we weren't lured towards Christmas, we would receive presents and my mom would say, "See, you receive presents one month early in our culture."  (This was true, but it still sucked when December rolled around and you had to tell your friends that you got your presents a month ago.)

Then in the coming days we would celebrate the holiday with aunties, uncles, and their kids.  We weren't related to any of them, but they became our family in the States.  This newfound family during Diwali was very much like an American family during Thanksgiving or Christmas - same stress levels, screaming kids, food everywhere, and the love, laughter, and joy we felt by sharing a moment in time together.  However, as I grew older and began to accept the fact that I was gay, I began to wonder if these same aunties and uncles would want to continue sharing this holiday with me and my family if they knew about my sexual orientation.

My mom's favorite phrase, "loge kya sochein gaye" (what will people/society say?) comes to mind.  Not only did I worry what these aunties and uncles would think about me, but, more importantly, what they would say about my family if they found out.  Diwali was one such time that I had resolved to stay an eternal bachelor for the sake of myself and my family.

You see, as immigrants, we had worked so hard to create a new family in the United States that we didn't want to lose it all.  These aunties and uncles had become our masis, bhuas, chachus, and mamus.  So coming out of the closet not only meant the possibility of losing friends and family, it also meant losing my culture -- my Diwali -- that I held so dear.

Eventually, I came out of the closet to my family, friends, and... the aunties and uncles.  Although there were a couple bumps along the way (I was expecting much worse!), I received the same love, laughter, and joy that I was afraid of losing.  Looking back, it was moments like Diwali when my family had developed such strong bonds of love with the aunties and uncles that nothing could tear that apart.  They had let the magic of Diwali lights enter in hearts year after year, and I was part of that magic, because it was as much my Diwali as it was theirs.

So, I wish you a khush (happy) Diwali this year and for the years to come.  Always know that you have someone and that moments of darkness will eventually make way for light. -Puesh

Monday, October 24, 2011

KhushDC member Urooj Arshad honored

During the 15th anniversary of the National Asian Pacific American Women's Forum (NAPAWF) our very own Urooj Arshad was chosen as one of the 15 APA Women Leader Spotlights.  Here's what they said about her:
Urooj Arshad has been on the front lines of a number of social justice movements for years, and exemplifies the NAPAWF “Fierce Sister.”  As the Associate Director of Equity and Social Justice at Advocates for Youth, she provides capacity building services to community based organizations working with youth of color.  She is a organizing powerhouse in the Muslim community through her leadership of an international queer Muslim collective addressing the current needs and concerns of LGBTQ Muslims around the world.  She recently became the first openly queer participant accepted to the prestigious American Muslim Civic Leadership Institute.  She has been a stalwart supporter of NQAPIA and has facilitated a number of training sessions.  At the strategy meeting of our first NQAPIA conference in 2009, her facilitation set the tone that inspired our initial board to step up to leadership.
Also, head on over to the Angry Asian Man blog to learn more about Urooj in her own words.  When asked what the best advice she's ever received, Urooj replied, "Happiness is also a form of revolution.  To attain true happiness we have to work towards love and not fear."  And now you know why we love Urooj so much.

You can help support her work by donating to NAPAWF by clicking here.

Friday, October 21, 2011

Why the Violence?

Event: Why the Violence? A community dialogue
When: Thursday, October 27, 2011 from 6:30-8:30pm
Where: Frank D. Reeves Municipal Center, 2000 14th St. NW, DC
Other Info:  Bring your voices to a community hearing about anti-LGBTQ violence in the DC community.

KhushDC has been working with a newly formed collective of queer people of color (QPOC) to address issues affecting our respective communities. Our inaugural event was on June 6th during Capital Pride and our very own Rashad Ullah was the moderator with panelists Earl Fowlkes, President and CEO of the International Federation of Black Prides, Ben de Guzman, Co-Director for Programs at the National Queer Asian Pacific Islander Alliance (NQAPIA), Sapna Pandya, Executive Director, Many Languages One Voice and Co-Founder, Humsafar International, David M. Pérez, President of the Latino GLBT History Project and Co-Chair of the 5th Annual DC Latino Pride, and Danielle King Founder/Director of The National Aurora Campaign.

To continue the discussion, we are hosting a community dialogue about the increased violence against LGBTQ people of color in the DC area on Thursday, October 27, 2011 from 6:30-8:30pm Frank D. Reeves Municipal Center, 2000 14th Street NW, DC.

Please share with fellow community concerned community members on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=232780200114322.

We welcome you to participate in this community hearing of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer people of color communities in DC. Stand up and TESTIFY about what YOU THINK is causing the upsurge of alarming violence against and within our communities. This hearing is an open, public forum, and the first in a proposed series of Mobilizing the Mosaic actions being organized by a newly formed collective of Queer People of Color (QPOC) in DC. Come offer your thoughts on violence in our communities, learn about LGBTQI resources available in DC, and propose ideas for action to keep all of us safe.

The Frank D. Reeves Municipal Center is located on the corner of 14th & U Street NW. Yellow or Green line to U Street/Cardozo. Join us at Nellie's at the corner of U St. NW and 9th Street for an informal gathering to continue conversation and community building after the hearing.

Click here for full flyer.

--DC QPOC is an informal collective of individuals and organizations interested in fostering unity, community, leadership and activism among Queer People of Color through educational and social events.--

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Introducing Chai 'N' Chat

In honor of National Coming Out Day, October 11th, we would like to announce the revival of KhushDC's Chai 'N' Chat Discussion Group meetings.

Chai 'N' Chat is a safe and confidential place for the South Asian lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer community to join a group atmosphere to discuss a variety of topics such as coming out, gender identity and expression, sex and relationships, marriage, and much more.  Usually, the topic for a specific meeting is just a guide - feel free to bring any topic of concern to you.




Sunday, November 13th Chai 'N' Chat

Cutting Chai. Photo credit: Premshree
Pillai's Flickr photostream
Time: 4:00pm
Topic: Coming Out

Each person’s coming-out story is unique and personal.  Come share your story with us or just come and listen to other coming-out stories on Sunday, November 13th.  We'll be meeting at a KhushDC member's residence in the Mount Pleasant area.  More details, directions, and options for transportation will be sent on an individual basis once you RSVP to treasurer @ khushdc.org or dwayneeric @ yahoo.com (without the spaces) to ensure the privacy of everyone attending.

EXCERPTS on the coming-out process

“Many people find that coming out is a positive experience. However, coming to terms with confusion about identity can have both positive and negative effects on many aspects of a person's life, including social relationships, school or work, and self-esteem.

Coming out can be a difficult time; many LGBT people fear negative reactions, rejection and upsetting people they are close to. In many parts of the world strong cultural attitudes and discriminatory laws make coming out even harder.

Despite the obstacles faced by LGBT people, every day more people around the world make the decision to come out, and many organisations are working to provide support and campaign for the rights of people who are able to come out and live their lives openly as LGBT.” - http://www.avert.org/coming-out.htm

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“For lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (GLBT) people, coming out is a process of understanding, accepting, and valuing one’s sexual orientation/identity. Coming out includes both exploring one’s identity and sharing that identity with others. It also involves coping with societal responses and attitudes toward LGBT people.

The coming out process is very personal. This process happens in different ways and occurs at different ages for different people. Some people are aware of their sexual identity at an early age; others arrive at this awareness only after many years. Coming out is a continuing, sometimes lifelong, process. Because positive role models are often difficult to identify, LGBT people may feel alone and unsure of their own sexual identities. Fear of rejection is greater among LGBT people due to the prejudices in society against them.” - http://www.counselingcenter.illinois.edu/?page_id=150

Thursday, October 6, 2011

KhushDC member featured on NPR

Daniel Phoenix Singh, a long-time KhushDC member and former board member, was featured on NPR on Wednesday, October 5th for this incredible dance company Dakshina.  We're really proud of Dan and wish him the very best! 

Dan attributes his love of dance to Pamela Matthews, a long time friend, teacher, and mentor. Singh holds an MFA in dance, and he studied Bharata Natyam with Guru Meena Telikicherla for several years. He continues to train at the Maryland Youth Ballet. Singh has been studying the Cuban/Colombian variations of Salsa and Merengue with Javier Varela and Shawn Malone for over nine years and has been studying Tango with Sharna Fabiano for two years.

The photographer of the image on the left is Stephen Baranovics, and the image is courtesy of Dakshina/Daniel Phoenix Singh Dance Company.  Pictured is Daniel Phoenix Singh.

Listen to the interview here:


Also, hope to see you on Saturday for Dakshina's presentation of Kalakshetra in Leela Samson’s SPANDA.  Learn more here.

Indian-American becomes White House LGBT Liaison

Photo courtesy of the White House
Yesterday, the White House officially named Gautam Raghavan as the LGBT liaison of the White House Office of Public Engagement. Us here at KhushDC are extremely excited by the announcement and hope to work with Gautam on issues facing the South Asian and larger LGBT community.

If you don't know already, he was instrumental in leading the repeal of Don't Ask Don't Tell. Read more about it at Metro Weekly.

Friday, September 30, 2011

"i am" Film Screening & Talk with Filmmaker Sonali Gulati

What do parents say when they find out their child is gay? Eleven years after her mother’s death, lesbian filmmaker Sonali Gulati returns to her hometown of New Delhi, India, to clean out her house and make peace with the parent she never came out to. Gulati interviewed 21 Indian families over the course of five years to unravel the intricacies and difficulties of coming out in India.

Dir. Sonali Gulati, 2011, India, 71 mins. in Hindi and English with English subtitles

Part of the Reel Affirmations 20th International LGBT Film Festival!

After the film, KhushDC is sponsoring a special Q&A session with Sonali Gulati! You definitely don't want to miss out on this screening and experience, which should insightful for both those in the LGBTQ community and their allies. More information to come regarding the location of the Q&A.

Screening Information
Date and time: 
Saturday, Oct 15, 2011 at 3:00 PM
Location:  Theatre B07 (lower level), 805 21st Street NW. Wash, DC 20052 (click for Google Map)


Dinner after the Screening & Talk
After the film and talk at the theater (probably around 5:00pm), we're walking over to "Thai Place" restaurant to celebrate the awesomeness of Sonali and her work.  Dinner will be pay-on-your-own, so if you decide to attend, please plan on bringing cash.  (It's sometimes hard for the restaurant to split checks with so many people.)

Thai Place
2134 Pennsylvania Ave NW
(between N 21st St & N 22nd St)
Washington, DC 20037

Tickets for the Screening ($12) - please buy in advance
http://prod1.agileticketing.net/WebSales/pages/TicketSearchCriteria.aspx?epguid=2b864d79-e14b-427f-b310-509a8b01b22c&evtinfo=39563~807b97d3-463a-474c-b0ee-cc050fbb0d1c&


RSVP using the Facebook event please:  http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=140525419378439


YouTube Trailer:




Note: This is a public event for anyone to attend. We welcome the entire LGBTQ community and our straight allies to join us in celebrating such a powerful film.

October Chutney Dinner & Dakshina Dance Performance

Join us for our October Chutney dinner and Dakshina Performance on this coming weekend!

Chutney Dinner


What: Chutney Dinner
When: 6:00PM on Saturday, October 8th 2011
Where: Alero Mexican Restaurant
1301 U St NW
Washington, DC 20009
(202) 462-0834

Please RSVP to Rehan at treasurer@khushdc.org by 7:00 PM on Friday, October 7th so that he can get a head count for reservation. It is encouraged that you bring cash as it is much easier to pay the bill for a large group that way.

Dakshina Performance

After dinner a bunch of us will head across the street to Lincoln Theater for a performance of Leela Samson's Spanda by Kalakshetra. This performance is organized by Daniel Phoenix Singh's fabulous dance company Dakshina. More details about the performance can be found at http://www.dakshina.org/2011/07/25/kalakshetra-performs-spanda. As many of you know Dan has been a long time member and supporter of KhushDC.

Dan has very generously agreed to make available some Orchestra seats at a subsidized rate of $30 for KhushDC members so that you can avoid ugly ticketmaster fees. This is a great deal and I highly encourage folks who are interested in South Asian performance arts or would like to know more about it to take advantage of this opportunity. If you would like to get one of these seats please email Rehan by 5:00 PM on Tuesday, Oct 4th at treasurer@khushdc.org.

Here's a preview of the performance:



See you on Saturday!